tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post2097266603150346154..comments2024-03-20T06:15:35.139-07:00Comments on When You Can't Have Kids: What kind of mother...Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post-63526082173574027912013-10-09T20:46:12.313-07:002013-10-09T20:46:12.313-07:00Thanks Robin and Milly - I really appreciate both ...Thanks Robin and Milly - I really appreciate both of your comments. It means a lot to know there are people out there that care. I no longer feel so down on myself...and you're right Milly...Mother's guilt, even if I don't have children!! :-)<br />Kate Bettisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16675697263537244480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post-16878552206023873172013-10-09T02:46:28.902-07:002013-10-09T02:46:28.902-07:00Give yourself a break O:)
Give yourself a break O:)<br />Robin Marynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post-45275640635965505572013-10-08T21:35:48.737-07:002013-10-08T21:35:48.737-07:00Hey! Don't be so harsh on yourself.
You know,...Hey! Don't be so harsh on yourself. <br />You know, I think this shows you would have been a great mum.<br /><br />My theory is this: mums beat themselves up way too much, way too often. And for things that they can't control anyway. <br />It sounds to me like you're beating yourself up here, right? Just like a real, caring mum. <br /><br />The thing is, if you had given birth, you would remember the date. You wouldn't be calculating it from charts. You worked out the date by doing maths, not by experience.<br /><br />So many people make mistakes when doing maths. Making these mistakes does NOT make you a bad mother. <br /><br />If you ask me, I think your pain and anger are coming from somewhere else, a much deeper place. And they are legitimate feelings, you've been through a lot. <br />Please don't feel ashamed. Really, you shouldn't. You're a strong person, who has made the decision to stop trying. That was a very hard decision to make. And a very brave one. Just remember, you're allowed to change your mind if you want to. And if you'd rather not, that's your call. You have to feel comfortable with your decision. <br />I don't know you, but I care that you feel ashamed. Your blog posts have helped me and many other women. You reached out to us, so I hope my reaching out can help you banish the shame. <br />blog hugs :) <br />MillyMillynoreply@blogger.com