tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post3428034225084362381..comments2024-03-20T06:15:35.139-07:00Comments on When You Can't Have Kids: Empty arms and sweet cats…Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post-209761869507366692014-01-27T14:52:27.931-08:002014-01-27T14:52:27.931-08:00It sure is a journey. Sometimes it seems that I ha...It sure is a journey. Sometimes it seems that I have fully come to terms that we won’t be having children, but then the pain will rip its way into my life once again. I don’t think, unfortunately, that the pain of not having children ever completely goes away. What’s been important for me in meeting that pain has been finding ways to honour it – I give it space and time, I think about our babies that could have been, I spend some time in solitude just being. It might sound strange to say “honour pain”, but for me, if I try to ignore it then it festers and becomes too big to handle. If I meet it and let it be there without trying to control it – it becomes less powerful and I can enjoy life again. Don’t force yourself just to focus on the positive - this is a big deal and grief is necessary. And you are not alone. My thoughts are with you.Kate Bettisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16675697263537244480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post-77950164079345290782014-01-27T06:39:59.721-08:002014-01-27T06:39:59.721-08:00Hi, I have been married 9yrs, 4 IVF cycles, 2 misc...Hi, I have been married 9yrs, 4 IVF cycles, 2 miscarriages and am coming to terms with the fact that I may never be a mother. I tell myself I am grateful for everything else I have been given in life - wonderful husband and good job - but the pain does not seem to go away. It was nice reading your blog. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com