tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post7013808949311455435..comments2024-03-20T06:15:35.139-07:00Comments on When You Can't Have Kids: Mother's DayUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post-50023794849076136082017-08-26T22:59:34.957-07:002017-08-26T22:59:34.957-07:00Hi Mali - definitely! It's hard enough without...Hi Mali - definitely! It's hard enough without the remarks! xx<br /><br />Hi Samara - I really think grief never completely goes away and comes back in a circular type fashion. I've definitely been through the darkest days though when the house was so quiet, I didn't want anything to do with children (because it hurt too much), and I was so angry with the world and anyone who could have children. The feeling of failure is one of the toughest parts - feeling less of a woman... But, with time, I've learnt how to remember that I a woman and have much to give as a woman. It's not always easy though. You're in my thoughts and heart Samara and if you ever want to chat by email please do send me a message. xxKate Bettisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16675697263537244480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post-38329397048860421652017-08-21T14:14:13.098-07:002017-08-21T14:14:13.098-07:00I Googled "What to do with your life when you...I Googled "What to do with your life when you cannot have children", and I was led to this blog. I am also lost as to what to do with the rest of my life since I will be wife but not mother. I've been through all the stages of grief and then I seem to start back on square one of the grief grid. I feel like I will scream if ONE more person says, "We were trying for one more and oops twins, triplets, etc". I Pinterest "empty arms quotes", and cry quietly in my room so my husband doesn't hear. I feel like a failure as a woman, and I have this big, beautiful deathly quiet home. Empty rooms mock me, we won't put up a tree because I associate Christmas trees with Christmas morning and sleepy babies in footie jammies running and jumping into the parents bed excited for waffles and presents. UGHSamara Sant https://www.blogger.com/profile/07028042487648484480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post-78573623755494903432017-07-03T21:26:40.062-07:002017-07-03T21:26:40.062-07:00I was away during Mother's Day, but I do know ...I was away during Mother's Day, but I do know what you mean. I have to say, I read things like the Fb posts you're talking about, and I just roll my eyes. Feeling a degree of scorn towards the people who so thoughtlessly wrote or shared something can be quite empowering. <br /><br />Good grief !!Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post-71640862560076229202017-05-13T23:04:04.321-07:002017-05-13T23:04:04.321-07:00Hi Lindsey - thanks for your comment. It is hard t...Hi Lindsey - thanks for your comment. It is hard to work out what will give you fulfillment When all you've wanted is children and always thought that they would be the purpose for your life. It took me a while to get started on what my new or alternative journey would be (and it's still confusing sometimes and I get lost!!). For me it was about what else I could offer that would be bigger than me - so things like looking out for the environment. Also, putting a lot of energy into my fur kids whom I love so dearly - I do treat them like children...they are my kids. Kirby and I have also started to plan adventures - so actively seek out things that we want to do and then book them in - e.g. swimming with sea lions, going to Thailand (in 4 weeks - yay!), going kayaking in a place where there are dolphins, or even just going to the beach for a swim. It's really important to make time to do things that you enjoy - sometimes it's like you're studying yourself again to find out what you like and who you are. I've also got my writing which I'm doing - although I'm struggling with this at the moment. I hope this helps - please feel free to send me an email via the contact form on the blog - I'm always happy to chat one to one. xxKate Bettisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16675697263537244480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post-71133528942244234722017-05-12T17:04:48.866-07:002017-05-12T17:04:48.866-07:00Hi Kate, apologies if you get my comment twice... ...Hi Kate, apologies if you get my comment twice... it didn't seem to post the first time around so I'm having to rewrite it. <br /><br />I've just stumbled across your blog and read through your entries after googling (for the millionth time) something along the lines of "childless...alternative life goals". This is a big struggle for me at the moment, trying to work out what alternative life I can lead now that I cannot be a mother. I feel stuck in a rut, every day is the same, and I feel like there's nothing to look forward to in my future. I have no nieces or nephews, no children in my life at all. May I ask what else you've chosen to focus on, what gives you a feeling of meaning or things to look forward to? X Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01162139557864158214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8488346667354289216.post-80282537341633320292017-05-10T08:22:57.301-07:002017-05-10T08:22:57.301-07:00That's true, it does seem extra sad for the co...That's true, it does seem extra sad for the couples who weren't 'chosen'.dublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.com