One of my regular readers, Mali, made a comment on my last blog entry about losing friends.
Here it is in its entirety:
“You're right - there's no real reason for this. But I had one friend - the last person I would have thought I would have lost - who withdrew from me when her children started school. A few years later I was invited to a dinner, and there were all these new friends I'd never met - all parents of her kids' friends. None of the friends she'd had five or ten years earlier.
I'm lucky though - the friends I have who have children have mostly not changed. And you'll find that once their kids are older, they start to come back too. Case in point - I'm going to my aforementioned friend's new house for dinner this week.”
It’s the last two sentences of the comment that had me really thinking.
I hope that the friends that have disappeared from my life after they’ve had kids do come back to me one day.
And I do believe I’ll be there to welcome them with open arms, a smile, and, of course, a coffee!
Thank you, Mali, for your comment, your continued support, and for how you have a way of making me reflect more deeply than I otherwise might about the issues we face when we can’t have kids.