Yet again I’ve been a
bit slack with writing blog posts…but I have a good reason…
I’ve had whiplash…from
slipping over in the shower…not the smartest thing to do, but I now know that
our shower screen is rather strong and our bathroom tiles are rather hard!!
And onto today’s post…
Over the past four to
five years we have “collected” a group of friends who don’t have children.
Together we are four couples of around the same age – more or less. We have
dinner at one of our homes every six months or so – although we will now be
adding some hikes on the Waterfall Gully to Mt Lofty Summit trail which I am really excited about!
The interesting part
of this group of friends is that I have no idea what the story is behind each
of the other three couples not having children. Could they not have them? Did
they decide not to have them? I don’t know and it’s not something that we’ve
talked about or felt the need, so far, to bring up.
I think they know our
story, but again we haven’t talked about it directly with them.
It’s clear that all of
us love children. Much of the conversation together is about our respective
nieces and nephews and how we much we adore them…so it sometimes seems odd that
we haven’t talked directly about our own situations.
I would absolutely be
happy to talk should any of our friends wish to, but at the same time it’s nice
to have a group of friends who don’t have children and with whom we talk about
many other things other than why we don’t have children – topics such as
travel, hobbies, and so forth. And that we are not “distracted” (that sounds
horrible, but I can’t think of another word at the moment) by children.
Does that make sense?
It’s not that I don’t
want to spend time with my friends who have children – I most certainly do –
but having this group of friends kind of makes it feel like it’s completely
normal to not have them.
I am very, very
grateful for this group of people!
2 comments:
Whiplash - ouch! Hope you feel better soon.
I love that you have a group of no kidding friends. I think I love even more in ways that you don't know why they don't have them. That simply being together, sharing what you have in common and not what you don't have, and focusing on the positives in your lives, is enough. I wish it was like that with all our friends.
I do though have a couple of friends (couples) with no kids - and though they know about my ectopics, I know the story of only one couple, and they know ours, but we rarely touch on either of our stories. The others have never volunteered their information, and I've never pried. We have other things in common that we want to talk about. Whilst I'm a little curious, I never think to ask.
I'm feeling much better thanks Mali! It is nice to have a group of friends where you can share interests and, as you say, focus on the positives in life. Not that the kids in our lives aren't positives too...but there are different positives as well...
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