It’s been just over a
week since my day surgery. It went well – except that I ended up staying in hospital
overnight as the surgeon had to do a bit more to me than originally
anticipated.
It turns out I have
endometriosis, so the surgeon cleared that up, my blood pressure dropped, I was
in more pain than I certainly anticipated, and I was admitted. Fortunately I
only stayed one night and was able to come home. I am so thankful for Ashford
Hospital here in South Australia – the best medical care I could have hoped
for.
For the first few days
I was limited as to what I could do – in other words it was bed or the couch. And
the worst was not being able to have my cats on my lap and not being able to pat
my dogs or play with them. I’m feeling much better now and slowly being able to
do more and more.
At least I’m feeling
better physically.
Mentally?
Spiritually?
I’m struggling big
time. It changes from day to day – Wednesday was a not so good day, yesterday
was a good day, today is a bad day.
It’s not the fact that
I’ve had an operation that has forever taken the choice of trying for a baby
again away from me (which is something I have accepted). The reason I am
struggling is that I have endometriosis and despite going through IVF and
seeing a gynaecologist back around that time with symptoms associated with
endometriosis (like infertility – duh!) nobody even bothered to investigate it
as a possibility.
If they had – if they
only had – it might have been addressed and we might have our child here with
us right now. I am really struggling to come to terms with this.
I know that there is a
possibility that I still wouldn’t have become pregnant, but the fact that
further investigation was not done at the time is just beyond my comprehension.
Why didn’t they check? I had the fatigue, I had the pain in my abdomen and
lower back, I had the painful period cramp, I had had miscarriages, and I damn
well couldn’t have a baby. What went wrong? You know I even recall them saying
that I didn’t have it as they couldn’t see it on any scans – well guess what –
the only way to truly know if someone has it is to do a laparoscopy (like I had last
Thursday).
I am so furious. I
have tried not to be angry and to “let it go” knowing nothing will change, but
that isn’t working so much and I feel like I am being eaten up inside. Instead I am going to let the anger and grief
and whatever other emotions occur have their space, and deal with them instead
of trying to bottle them up. I will cry, rage, talk, meditate, just “be” out in
nature, play with my dogs, hug my nephew, throw tantrums, consider how blessed
I am, tell Kirby I love him, and swear my head off.
But I’m not going to
pretend I’m fine.
That would be a lie –
because I’m not.
One thing that I know will
help me now is to say this to you who are having trouble having a baby – if you
even remotely suspect that you have endometriosis, stand up for yourself and demand
that it be investigated. And don’t let them put you off by saying your scans don’t
show any signs of it – insist on a laparoscopy.
And please, please,
please – if you do go through the tests and find you do have endometriosis, and
it is treated, and you end up with that miracle in your arms – please let me
know. It would help to mend my heart to know that something good might come
from sharing my experience with you. And photos too please! Lots of photos!
My love, as always, to
all my readers, and thank you for your endless support.
