One of my regular
readers, Mali, made a comment on my last blog entry about losing friends.
Here it is in its
entirety:
“You're right - there's no real reason
for this. But I had one friend - the last person I would have thought I would
have lost - who withdrew from me when her children started school. A few years
later I was invited to a dinner, and there were all these new friends I'd never
met - all parents of her kids' friends. None of the friends she'd had five or
ten years earlier.
I'm lucky though - the friends I have who have children have mostly not
changed. And you'll find that once their kids are older, they start to come
back too. Case in point - I'm going to my aforementioned friend's new house for
dinner this week.”
It’s the last two sentences of the comment
that had me really thinking.
I hope that the friends that have
disappeared from my life after they’ve had kids do come back to me one day.
And I do believe I’ll be there to welcome
them with open arms, a smile, and, of course, a coffee!
Thank you, Mali, for your comment, your
continued support, and for how you have a way of making me reflect more deeply
than I otherwise might about the issues we face when we can’t have kids.
4 comments:
Wow! I'm so glad that what I said helped.
I think being 12 years on means that I've been through the upsetting bits, and can often see them come full circle.
I have a friend whose kids are grown, and who has tried to say that she feels her situation is the same as mine in many ways. I've been thinking about it for a long time (a couple of years!!), because I want to give credit to what she's saying, as well as put it in perspective. Maybe I'll write that post now!
You certainly did help - Your blog is No Kidding New Zealand isn't it?
Yes, that's the one. ;-)
I meant to comment on this post that I love this sentence: "And I do believe I’ll be there to welcome them with open arms, a smile, and, of course, a coffee!"
I kind of like that line too...:-) I'm going to go and have a read of your blog today - I admit I've been a bit slack in my reading lately!
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